RELATIONSHIP ADVICE
“How much are you willing to sacrifice for your relationship?”
Honestly, that depends.
Some people are willing to die for their loved ones. Others can’t so much as give up their seat on the train.
Compromise is necessary if you want your relationship to last. Habits, lifestyle, money, questionable hairstyles — all have been sacrificed in the name of love. But it’s simply not worth putting the relationship before your own well-being and happiness.
Ever heard of “You can’t love others without loving yourself first?” You can’t be in a healthy relationship with your love tank constantly empty.
Sure, relationships involving two very different people — different beliefs, values, habits — adjustments and a lot of compromise are necessary. I just don’t think people should sacrifice so much for it.
But one might ask, just how much is too much?
Someone who sleeps with the lights on, gets into a relationship with someone who prefers sleeping with dimmed will eventually learn to change their preferences.
Someone who lives in America meets and falls in love with someone from Asia will either have to relocate to the country or have their partner move to their hometown.
Your new job offer might mean being too far away from your partner.
It’s simple — sacrifice becomes too much when it:
- drains the life out of you
- doesn’t make you happy anymore
- pushes you not to be yourself anymore
Let’s face it, when you’re in love, you become crazy enough to give up so much for the one you love. And while it’s not wrong to sacrifice, you should also know your limitations and set up boundaries — what you can and can’t give up — just to make sure you aren’t hurting yourself in the long run.
So what’s your tolerance level?
Can you sacrifice your time? Sure, absolutely. But you also want to have some time for yourself, and not always be readily available at beck and call.
Sacrifice money? Are you willing to zero yourself and empty your wallet for this relationship?
How about your relationship with friends and family? Is that something you can sacrifice as well?
Remember, you entered into a relationship for happiness, so why should you sacrifice it? Do you think the relationship is worth giving up your happiness for? If the relationship does ultimately fail, will you regret what you did just to save it, or will you instead be proud of your effort?
If you begin to doubt that the relationship and sacrifice aren’t good for you, and don’t give you the same happiness as it did before, just trust what your gut tells you and let go.
But if there is a conscientious and healthy compromise, tempered with patience, love, and understanding, then you might just be doing what it takes to be in a long, happy, and healthy romantic affair.
Source: Quora
