REALITIES
“What are some reasons people are single?”
Choice.
Having a toxic behavior.
Unrealistic expectations.
And the most common excuse — trauma.
Some people have become traumatized and are too scared to get into relationships. If they do get into one, they end up ruining it themselves. Maybe because they have led themselves to believe that they are not worthy of love so they self-sabotage.
If there’s one thing I’ve learned throughout this life, it’s this. It is impossible to love someone else if you don’t even love and respect yourself.
You can choose to believe that there is always someone out there for each person. Their “meant to be” person or their soulmate. At the end of the day, I believe you shouldn’t be in a relationship unless you fix yourself first.
See, the thing about relationships is that if you have things going on in your life and refuse to fix them, it’s going to end up being thrown at the other person. Whether you are doing it on purpose or not, it will crop up later. And it’s going to cause problems during the course of the relationship.
It’s a sign that you aren’t ready for one.
Still, you are free to be with someone, and you two can try to help each other out. There are hundreds of couples that end in a beautiful marriage with their own happy endings because they worked out their problems and issues together. I can sure as hell tell you that it probably wasn’t easy for them — not by a long shot at least — but hey, they worked out in the end.
All I’m saying is — most problems between lovers are because of this. And some are just not that ready or at the very least mentally and/or emotionally equipped to handle the storms that get thrown their way.
TL;DR, people stay single because of choice, trauma, problematic personality, and lack of self-love.
