What You Need to Know About Dating in Asia

More and more Western men are choosing to date in Asia, hoping to find their perfect match. There’s just a certain charm to Asian women that men find irresistible.

But a lot of Western men have certain expectations and preconceptions about women in general. Some don’t understand how harmful it is to stick to these expectations and impose them on women from another culture like Asia.

If you’re one of those men, begin your dating journey with an open mind regarding, specifically, Asia’s dating culture and the stereotypes surrounding Asian women.

Dating to Marry

Most Asian women will date to marry. They don’t intend to waste time, and their society is the cause for the rush. China is an example of such a society. Their community and family pressure them to avoid the derogatory label called a “shèngnǚ.”

The term refers to any woman who isn’t married or doesn’t have children before 30. It translates into “leftover women” indicating their status in society. So, keep in mind that most women will date to marry.

However, it is also common for them to ignore the label. These women are successful in their careers and are highly competent women that also look for someone that can match them in status.

Family Oriented

Their parents or certain family members have a say in who they date. If you want to date an Asian, you also have to impress her family. They will look into your emotional and financial stability, career choice, and upbringing.

Your date or potential match might have the final say, but her family will urge her to reconsider if you fail to impress.

They Focus on Quality

All women have standards, but Asian women take it more seriously than others. They focus on the quality of a man — his status, personality, and upbringing. If an Asian woman rejects your advances, you’re not what she’s looking for.

Don’t take it to heart because it just means they won’t settle for less. You have to be confident and become better if you want to date an Asian that matches your preferences.

Debunking Stereotypes

Stereotypes come from decades of misunderstandings, labels, and one-sided stories. Even more, these stereotypes are enforced by mainstream media, like movies and online content.

I don’t know how and when exactly they started, but they’ve evolved enough to cause harm to future generations of Asians. If you want to date an Asian woman, you need to be aware of these stereotypes:

• Submissive

Asian women are shown by the media as subservient, gentle people willing to obey anyone in power. However, this isn’t true at all. Most of the women are cunning, intelligent, and competent individuals who are strong enough to defend themselves.

Don’t think that when you date an Asian woman, she’ll listen to your every whim. She is a person with her own voice that needs to be heard.

• Sexualized

The stereotype of an overly sexualized Asian woman stems from the origin of sex trafficking or certain forms of entertainment. The next time you think of an Asian wearing sexy clothes and seducing you, just remember that this is why young teenagers get kidnapped and sold for sex.

• Overly Smart

We can always find an Asian woman that’s good at the sciences, in every movie, series, or show. It’s a misrepresentation that limits them and strengthens the stereotype that all women must be good at the sciences.

If you still plan on dating an Asian woman, please take note of these stereotypes and dating cultures. Dating in Asia requires a lot of effort for getting rid of bad habits. Stay safe, and happy dating!