DATING TREND
Ghostee Chronicles: When Ghosting is Considered the Right Choice
Ghosting.
I’m sure many of you are already familiar with the term. No, not the paranormal entity that keeps you up at night, but the concept that most often happens in romantic relationships where one person disappears without so much as a warning, cutting all forms of communication and leaving the “ghostee” — the person left behind — feeling confused and betrayed.
Ghosting is bad, and we can all agree to that. Imagine being left behind by someone you’re starting to feel good about. Having to figure out what you might have done wrong is hard enough, dealing with the guilt of not having the opportunity to fix the mistake is even more gut-wrenching. To top it off, coping with the sudden disappearance can take weeks to recover from, even months if you are heavily invested in that person emotionally.
However, despite its negative implications, believe it or not, ghosting isn’t always a bad thing. Ghosting can be considered reasonable in certain cases, such as:
Serial Lying
Lying to your partner is a big red flag, especially if it becomes a habit. If your partner is a serial liar who outright deceives you every chance they get, then you are better off leaving. Do not stay in a relationship that is built on lies, especially if it comes to the point where you can no longer distinguish between what is true and what is a lie.
Your Safety is at Risk
People enter relationships in hopes of finding someone who will make them feel loved and safe. If your partner becomes the reason your safety is compromised, then by all means leave without telling them. Do not give an abusive partner a chance to persuade you to stay or they will resort to threats.
You are No Longer Respected
Respect is an important part of any relationship. Once you feel you are no longer afforded the respect that you deserve, ghosting your partner is considered reasonable. Never allow anyone to treat you any less than what you deserve as a person.
Time with You Becomes Optional
Whether you are dating long distance or not, you and your partner should always have time for each other. When your partner spends less and less time with you, it only means that you are no longer on top of their priority list. You can confront your partner about it, but if they continue to treat you as an option, then you have all the right to ghost them.
Being ghosted isn’t something you would wish on someone. However, staying in a toxic relationship with a person who doesn’t respect you is even worse than ghosting. Relationships are meant to make you happy and fulfilled. If it is making your life miserable instead, then it is better to leave without the need to explain yourself.
