INTERRACIAL DATING
“How do I date an Asian girl if I am black?”
It isn’t rocket science. The simplest way to do it is by approaching her and then asking her out.
It is no longer surprising to see blacks and Asians dating. It may have been different back then, but in this era, where everyone is trying their best to be inclusive and tolerant, Blasian (Black x Asian) couples are nearly everywhere.
Before I met my husband, I had a relationship with a black man who I fell in love with. He didn’t do anything outrageous to court me. We met online, he messaged me first and I messaged back, end of story. He and I broke it off because we simply fell out of love, not because of anything dramatic.
What I’m trying to say is that you should feel free to approach or message the Asian girl you are crushing on right now. As an Asian myself, we are very receptive to replying and even entertain foreign men who message us. I mean, that’s how I met my husband.
As for how you date the Asian girl… it’s fairly simple. It’s not any different than dating any other girl you see walking by. Still, if you don’t want to mess up then here are a few key tips.
- Accept her as a person and not as an object belonging to the Asian culture. This is a given. Also, try speaking her language even if you only know some words and phrases, she’ll appreciate your effort. She might even teach you some phrases herself. However, try not to show off too much on the get-go. There is a thin line between entertaining her and outright offending her.
- Never fetishize her. If you only wanted to date her because she’s Asian and not because you actually like her as a person, then it’s best to call it quits, my friend. Asians are charming and gentle. Love your Asian crush for those reasons instead.
- Don’t be scared when communicating with a woman of a different race and culture. We’re all humans in the end. She’s just going to be a regular girl with only the slightest differences. Then again, every girl is different from the other, even those who are of similar race.
- Charm her family. When you two start dating, it’s best to know that for many Asians, family is a huge deal. So try your best to get along and make a good impression. If your intentions are good, chances are they’ll see that.
Last tip — try your best not to show how excited or nervous you are when talking to her. It’s going to look suspicious. Just treat her like any other girl, alright? We don’t bite. Just be open-minded, polite and confident.
Good luck!
Source: Quora
