CHEATING IN RELATIONSHIPS
“Do Filipinas/Filipinos cheat in love relationships?”
My answer to this question isn’t simply yes or no, but I would say just don’t generalize. Asking this question is like asking if people lie, or sing, or dance. Yes, people are capable of doing these, but just because they can, does this necessarily mean everyone does as well? Such is also the same with cheating.
According to statistics, about 40% of unmarried relationships and 25% of marriages experience at least one incident of infidelity. These numbers are astonishing to say the least, but these aren’t limited to Filipinos alone.
Everyone can cheat and that includes Filipinos.
I know Filipinos who have cheated, I have friends who have cheated and I’d be lying if I say I haven’t been with a cheater myself. There’s no denying that cheating or infidelity is nothing foreign in the Philippines. But does this mean it’s safe to presume that being with Filipinos is a lost cause, since they will definitely cheat on you? Is one man’s mistake enough proof to be distrusting of the entire Filipino race? Absolutely not.
Cheating is one’s own and conscious choice.
The probability of them doing it isn’t affected by their race or ethnicity. There’s no cultural or historical association to explain why people cheat. Rather, they do so because they feel dissatisfied or unhappy with the relationship, and they believe they deserve more than what their partner can offer.
It’s really simply a decision made from one’s own selfishness and malcontent. So the question shouldn’t be “Do Filipinos/Filipinas cheat,” because honestly, some of them do. And unfortunately, there’s no way of pinpointing which of these people do, unless you experience them yourself.
But while it’s undeniable that for some, cheating has become a norm, something they could do without feeling guilt, it shouldn’t also be disregarded that there still is a percentage of Filipinos that remain faithful.
For one: they are mostly Catholics — firm believers in the sanctity of marriage, and though cheating doesn’t only occur in marriages, this respect or valuing of marriage can be reflected in relationships other than marriages.
Two: the value of family is deeply ingrained in Filipinos’ identity — they are very family oriented; respecting and valuing the concept of family. It becomes contradictory if all of them support one of the things that breaks families apart.
And three, let’s also add the fact that the Philippines is one of the few countries that still consider infidelity as a criminal offense. This should be enough proof that the Philippines as a society does heavily frown against it.
Sure, there are those who can’t be content with one person, and will always find ways to satisfy themselves with other people. But while those kinds of people continue to exist, there are still those that remain pure with their intentions and actions.
A few bad apples shouldn’t overshadow the good ones.
Source: Quora
